Power Struggles of the Engaged

When two people decide to get married, it's all champagne and roses and diamonds. When they begin to plan the wedding, they often find themselves in different territory -- more like the TV show, Survivor. You don't have to travel half-way around the world to find a jungle to survive in, not when you are engaged. If you are "middle-tiers, " Brides and Grooms aged 30 and up, you may be in for a shock. You could be a participant in your own Reality Show of "Who is Going to Prevail" here. For all your love and passion, you now are making decisions together. In one true (I promise you) example, a bride-to-be and groom-to-be spent 15 minutes in an aisle of Bed, Bath & Beyond arguing over which cutting board to register for! They left, mad, without registering for either. The Bride later told me that she had gone back alone, bought two of the cutting boards for the kitchen they will already sharing, and that the Groom didn't even notice. So, a word to the wise -- If you start battling over the small, insignficant decisions, it's usually about something else, often times, who is going to be in control. My advice -- walk away from the situation if it is not a time-bound decision, and discuss it in a rational manner that encompasses room for compromise. If it is time-bound, look for an option that works for both of you. Often sitting down with paper and pencil and making your case on paper, and then exchaning papers, can keep the emotional tension down and the productivity level up. Happy Decision Making!

Bridal Soiree 2009

Paula Verbit and Perfect Bridal Coaching will be participating in the upcoming Beverly Hills Bridal Soiree 2009 bridal show on Sunday, March 29, 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. at Ingrid's Cafe on Santa Monica Blvd. $5.00 in advance, $10.00 at the door! If you are a Bride in the Greater LA Area, hope to see you there!

Bridal Soiree 2009
Sunday, March 29, 2009
11 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Ingrid's Cafe
9861 S Santa Monica Blvd
Beverly Hills, CA 90212
310.277.9377
www.ingridscafe.com